tryin to deal

nope, it was marked as "determined cause of death"
to me alot of signs were there, he was selling things off.
baffling...I wonder if a doctor gets gulity feelings..

needless to say im planning a trip out next weekend to see the gravesite

btw, I walk the straight and narrow, i would gather ones thoughts are "what the hell kinda friends does Eric have"

eric lavine wrote: but on another note, another friend of a friend which I knew pretty well expired of the same curcumstances last Friday, my good friend was at Hospice with the guys mother sitting there. well anyways, she looked over to my friend and said " they are here" her son gurgled his last breathe. from what I gather they saw 3 balls of light about the size of baseballs hovering over him and then vanished, she was at peace. im just repeating what i was told. one of another lifes mysteries i guess

That is beautiful Eric.

still in the morgue as of today, the apartment complex is on my ass to clean the place out, now they are giving me until the 30th, I need a release from the executor.
but on another note, another friend of a friend which I knew pretty well expired of the same curcumstances last Friday, my good friend was at Hospice with the guys mother sitting there. well anyways, she looked over to my friend and said " they are here" her son gurgled his last breathe. from what I gather they saw 3 balls of light about the size of baseballs hovering over him and then vanished, she was at peace.
im just repeating what i was told. one of another lifes mysteries i guess

Eric! good luck with your calls today, hope all things work out for you.Jeff

Sorry Eric, That is just not right, especially when someone cares and is wanting to handle it. Stay strong.

Dave

you know what really kills me in this situation, the cousin traveled out here about 4 months ago to pick up a few items from my (deceased) friends parents estate because he is in charge of the Mceesport historical society, for the historical society, but he cant travel here to take care of final arrangements and he is letting his cousin lay in the morgue.....just wait until that bstd calls me again, i will tear him a new a-hole. I really believe in a judgement day and that is what should bring out the good in people...I just cant understand what this guy is thinking, have some dignity and bury your kin.

Eric, I'm hopeful after reading your last post that there may be a good ending to this. Your friend changed his beneficiaries to you and your wife on the policy, and to your kids on the accounts, on his own without you even knowing that he had done it. That should make it completely clear that he did this on his own. The lack of a will may cause problems with taxes and delays, but I see no way the cousin or anyone else can claim those assets.

The truck and belongings are a different story, not sure how that will play out, maybe the cousin gets that stuff because it's not worth the fight.

Maybe the best news is that the guy had a very good, loyal friend that might be the only person on earth looking out for his wishes. I guarantee you he knew and appreciated that more than anything.

Eric,

Sorry to hear of your loss of a true friend and for what you are now having to deal with.

As you mentioned...

eric lavine wrote: moral of the story, get a will

A will would have specifically spelled out your friends intentions and last wishes. Long lost cousins (and other vultures) would still be pi$$ed off they were left out, but it would have taken you out of the equation entirely from playing middle man. I know this doesn't help you right now, but hopefully others can benefit from your experience.

If any of you don't currently have one, get started. I am going through the planning and creation process myself right now.

Eric, again, sorry for your loss.

thank you all for the kind words, ive had close people pass and it really never bothered me as does this.
He really thru the years was a lost lonely soul on this earth,an only child who's parents passed 3 and 5 years ago, and I know he is in a better place released from the demons that had a hold on him, and if you've ever been around that, you have to reflect back on the good times, He was shunned by many and i feel by sticking by his side in these final years it may have kept him here longer. and i have to personally deal with some guilty feelings that should pass with time.
But, he was a cheap ass in life (remember the soap thing) lol, but very generous in his death, does that sound bad? I really thought all of his assets were going to his first of kin and to the church, and i can still hear him saying, "if I ever die you can have my truck"
but upon making the arrangements i did find out there was no will which threw things up in the air, and in searching i did find a insurance policy and i called, and he switched the beneficiary to my wife and I, and I inquired about the funds to pay for his funeral which were at the bank and the finacial officer said i cant give you any information because you are not an executor of the will which there was not a will. and that afternoon he called me and told me he spoke to his boss and he informed me that he could give me the information that he switched the beneficiaries of his investment accounts into my childrens names about 6 months ago..
I never ever expected anything which it doesnt matter, but i think this is where the guilty feelings are manifesting. Ive learned a few life lessons this week.
one of his neighborhood friends called me yesterday and he said "I know im in his will because he always phrased to him "Im going to take you out of my will" and i think he used that as a bargaining chip, All I said to the guy was you gotta be fcn kidding me, there is no will and i hung up on him.
I'll keep you guys posted on when my friend gets buried, which seems like its going to be a while

Eric, very sorry to hear about your loss. If I understand this correctly, you found something at the bank that states he is leaving everything to your kids? If so, his wishes came true. Did you actually find a will at the bank? I hope so, and again, truly sorry to hear about this loss. It is always hard to deal with these tragedies during the holiday season. I hope this turns out well for you and your family.

eric,

My family will be thinking of you and praying for strength and courage, as well as wisdom to handle the situation in the best possible way!

Thanks for sharing this with us Eric. Anyone reading this can tell that he was like a brother to you. Best of luck with this one my friend and keep us posted as to the outcome. I've got my fingers crossed, and I'll be praying for you and your family.

Terrible news, and the situation you find yourself in is only making it worse. All you can do is your best to honor his wishes, if the cousin makes that difficult or impossible it won't be your fault. My guess is once he finds out your friend took care of where his money is going he'll disappear, or maybe take the truck and the TV and disappear.

Good luck with all this.