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Nautique2001 
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Guys, unfortunately I've been bottled up for about six weeks with some shocking news I'm still trying to process. For those of you I've had the pleasure to meet at past CorrectCraftFan reunions must know my wife, Patricia. Six weeks ago she decided that our marriage is over. I don't want to get into all the details, but it's been a tough time. We still love each other very much, but she's going on her separate way.
Anyway, more than ever what's important to me is being around friends and family. I look forward to seeing you all during upcoming events or just sharing topic via CCF. I'm going to shine the '86 up and appreciate everything I have. Amazing how losing the most important thing in your life will make you appreciate every little last thing. Patricia is an amazing woman and I very much appreciate the over 18 years total I've spent with her. Looking forward to an awesome 2012! Ken |
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 12:42am |
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Ken, sorry to hear the news, been there done that, as have a few on this site.
SJRR 2012 is right around the corner, you now have a good reason to come to sunny Florida for a get away weekend in late March. Plenty of CCFans there to see and warm water to enjoy....See you there Billy/Karen |
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Ken, I feel your pain my friend as I have been through the same thing. I hate to hear of anyone's marriage disolving and so sorry to hear about yours. 2011 was a rough year for me being without Kim but life will go on and it gets tough sometimes but you already know that. Your right in that you have a family here and the guys with whom you have personal relationships are just a phone call away and they will call you just to check on you. Thats what they've done for me so I know they will do it for you. Focus on the day, get out of the house when you can and hit some of these CCFan gatherings that are popping up and spend some quality time with the best boat buddies around. Hang in there buddy!
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Nautique2001
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 12:58am |
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Thank you, Billy. Great group of friends on this site. I'm fairly confident I'll be at SJRR this year. Working on a few things at the moment. I'd love to see you all. Will let you know for sure soon.
Thanks, Ken |
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Nautique2001
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Thanks, Tim. You never think it will happen to you. It's always others you hear about and feel awful for. I'm working very hard on finding things that put a slight smile on my face. Minutes feel like hours, hours feel like days. It's like starting life all over again. Floating in space, living on the moon. I'm so lucky to be a part of the CCF.com family. This is why I'm reaching out. Anyway, day by day it's getting a little better. I'll lean on you all for quite some time and look forward to brighter days.
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Hay Ken! Sorry to hear the news, but every ending starts a new begining! we never met but we will this year,hang in there and talk alot to your friends and family,time heals all wounds, so people like us will be happy in the end! never give up! life is to short. you will be happy again my friend. jeff
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hopefully you still have my cell number if you ever need to talk. if not..pm me and I'll send it right back. always enjoyed those conversations we used to have a few years ago.
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Ken, that is sad news. When I went through my divorce at first I could not tell anyone for a few weeks, then something kicks in and you tell everybody. A coworker who had been through the process responded with one sentence. He said "your getting on a roller coaster". I though I understood but it took awhile to appreciate his insight. Talking seems to help the most. This thread could be therapeutic for a lot of us, I say keep it going. Take good care of yourself.
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Ken, sorry to hear about the bad news.
I went through a tough crisis in my marriage last august and september. Chantal and I were on the brink of divorce and I lived in our caravan for a few weeks. A real sh*tty period!! I was lucky enough to save my marriage and we're doing better than ever. You will indeed need all the support you can get. Talking to friends and family helps the healing process and getting over the lonelyness... But try to keep your head up and move forward. |
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Life is one massive adventure with lots of happy times and some very low points that may seem desperate but there is always tomorrow and time on the water, stay close to the friends you have and they will see that you are alright. Sometimes you won't feel like going out and doing stuff but you need to push yourself out the door to get out there and discover who you are and what you want from life again.
I do speak from experience as I went though a divorce a few years back after being happy for 15years. I now have a life that's more than I could have ever dreamed of with a new partner that dosent mind the odd face-plant  things are very good and the future is full of promise.
Hang in there man things will get better. |
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lewy2001
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 8:02am |
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So sad to hear that Ken. Jo and I really enjoyed your company at GL. Maybe time to head to Australia for a bit of sunshine. CCfans are always welcome to stay with us downunder.
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oh boy, that *************** does hit you like a brick wall, take advise from these guys that have been through it including myself, surround yourself with family and friends, especially a good friend that will listen, if he is a friend he will listen, you gotta vent and not hold that *************** inside, at times it will feel like you wont get through it, but you most certainly will as all of us did. you'll look at this thread 2 years from now and will tell us how right we were. sorry to hear,
were men here but admittedly we have these GD feelings too that you cant control. keep yourself busy and i will also extend any amount of time if you ever need to talk....im a good listener 330-322-8817 |
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 11:40am |
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Ken it is a roller coaster i have climbed the hill 4 times.......if that doesnt make you smile .......
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former skylark owner now a formula but I cant let this place go
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 12:15pm |
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Ken,
Been there, done that and now I have a new wife, a new life and two great kids. I have been married for 26 years, 13 to each one! Hang in there. As much as your world seems to have colapsed it can get good again, maybe even better. Hang in there and your welcome to a pull on Chargoggagoggmanchauggagoggchabunagungamaugg this summer. Kevin |
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 12:25pm |
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Ken, I'm sorry to hear that. Hang it there, it will get better. Good time to make reservations for SJRR and Music City and be with your friends. Call me any time.
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 2:20pm |
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Sorry to hear your news Ken, any breakup can be a tough road but I can assure you in due time you will be a stronger better person as a result. Position yourself and focus on where you are at, a new beginning, resist thinking of it as the end. In the big picture you are better off, being in a hollow or 1 sided relationship is cheating yourself of what you want or deserve.
I am another one who has gone down the “D” road, been there done that, looking back it was the best thing for me, only regret was I waited too long to end it. Keep yourself busy, make a list of what you want to accomplish and just do it! |
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Posted: January-12-2012 at 6:31pm |
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Ken, sorry to hear the news. Like the guys have said already, keep your head up and think of the good times! Hopefully we'll be able to see this again at SJRR!!!!
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^^That picture puts a smile on face every time. Wish I saw it in person. Everyone with their hands on their heads and their mouths open in shock.
I guess I've been "lucky" enough that many of my relationships have detonated before I got to the point of marriage. So, I guess I've ridden the kiddie coaster a few times. My cousin is going through a separation and it was still fresh last summer. It was great in a way, because we spent more time at the lake water-skiing and hanging out, than we had in about 20 years. We had a great time and I'm secretly hoping they don't work it out, because I might lose a ski buddy. Larry (75 Tique) and I were talking last summer that it would be cool to get some ski sessions going at Lake Cochituate, or up in NH. It would be great if we could make that happen. In the meantime, we live close enough that if you feel like grabbing a beer, hit me up. My gf has a few single friends too so... |
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Thank you all for all the kind words. It's great hearing from you all and understanding that I'm not the only one who has gone through this. It's so hard to say goodbye to someone you still love with all your heart. Patricia has been such a special person for so many years. I can't even start to picture her with another man. The thought makes me absolutely sick. I thought I was such a nice person. I guess I wasn't. Anyway, I will take all your words of advice and move forward with my life. There must be something waiting for me in the future but I can't imagine what. No doubt I will come out of this a stronger person. Believe me, nothing seems to bother me these days. I can't wait to see you all in the near future and get busy living. John, I would like to speak to you at some point. I think you know everything about what happened. Thanks again, guys. I look forward to some fun, up-lifting threads on CCF.com. I need a good laugh!
Ken |
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Posted: January-13-2012 at 12:22am |
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We should get together sometime, Brian. We do live fairly close. You guys are more than welcome to come out on Lake Cochituate with us to run the course or do some footn'. We're out there almost every Saturday and Sunday morning. Good times ahead! |
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You don't have to ask me twice. I'd love a pull. I absolutely love your family too. They were a lot of fun talking to at the reunion. Thanks, Kevin. |
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Thanks, Chris. It certainly feels like the end of the road. It's been almost 19 years since I've ever dated anyone else. I plan on keeping myself very busy. Maybe I need a project boat to keep myself busy. I know of one or two close by in Connecticut! |
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Eventually it really won't matter who did or didn't do what. Just doesn't always work out.
You're about due to blow up your motor aren't you? 
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You need to focus on the good things, Picture yourself with another woman, pound anything with a pulse, lol, best therapy going!! |
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Posted: January-13-2012 at 11:29am |
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i say sleep with her friends better yet a relative ..female though
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former skylark owner now a formula but I cant let this place go
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Nautique2001
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LOL, you guys certainly know how to shift gears. Somehow I knew Hollywood would give his input. Yeah, I'd fix my engine Ken style and have about 25 spare parts, including a couple of pistons after reassembly. I change oil, plugs, wires and cap only.
Thanks for the laughs!!! |
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Ken – I’m sorry to hear about the split.
It sounds like a few folks on here have been through this. Friends and family sound like a good recipe to get you through this. Try not to dwell on what was… Thing about what could be… Hang in there! Kyle |
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Ken- Im really sorry to hear about your split from Patricia. Hopefully things will brighten up for you bud. I know I am planning on going to the SJRR and you should too! It will be a great way for you to get your mind off of everything!
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aw Ken that stinks.
I'm in the same, heh, boat, almost same timeline its funny, sometimes being nice, i found, tends to make one think bad things shouldn't happen to you, and often that (expectation) is just why they do. Lots of stages, give it time, take good care of yourself You will know yourself better too wish you best |
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Wow. I am sorry to hear that Ken. Keep your chin up, you'll get it figured out. Hit me up if you feel like chattin. I wish you both the best.
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